Pig Peggy, the 8 pain points of "Chinese-style family education"!
Author：Yiye Zhiqiu Date：2018-07-05 From：Yiye Zhiqiu, the emotional intelligence tutor of the child Hits：5622
One of the hottest pigs this year is undoubtedly the piglet, and the applause is given to the public.
What is the root cause of the success of Piglet? An evaluation can be summed up: "Pigpe" provides one of the most recognizable family life.
Yes, there are gentle mothers and generous fathers in this family. Parents love each other.
Is there any basis for such a statement? Let’s take a look at the family life of the social pig Piggy family. It is a great pain point for Chinese parents!
01 The best education is to have a gentle mother
Page's mother can be said to be a role model for many mothers in modern society: never angry, always amiable, and always face calmly, even when there is dissatisfaction, it is only a little while, even talking loudly There will be no.Page often likes to jump in the mud pit, covered in mud, and the mother will only gently say "just a little mud"; Page has inadvertently made a mistake, she just said: "Page, you shouldn't..."
Because it is never angry, this gentle criticism is more powerful. Every time Page will recognize the mistake and apologize in time, he will always be able to exchange his mother's understanding.In educating children, the pig mother insists on principles, such as Page and George will go to bed at 7 o'clock in the evening, but occasionally allow the baby to break the rules.One night, Peggy suddenly wanted to see the stars before going to bed. The pig grandfather had an astronomical telescope. The pig dad wanted to borrow it, but he was afraid that the pig mother would object, and hesitated that it was too late.
As the "leader" of the family, the pig mother said "maybe we should not miss such a rare opportunity"; then with the pig father, with Page and George came to the pig grandfather and pig grandma to see the stars.
The narrator said that this is the first time that Page and George went out at night. As children, they must feel very new and very happy. It is this episode that occasionally breaks the rules that will surprise the plain life.
Imagine changing Chinese parents, who would allow children to fall asleep for the almost entertaining things like "watching the stars"? A mother with a calm mood is the greatest luck of a child's childhood.
02 A father who never lacks family education
To say that the funny role in "Little Pig Page" is not a pig father, he bears at least 80% of the laughter.
Pig Dad is a working family, but always likes to brag about himself as an expert in a certain field. Unfortunately, as long as he guides the way, he always takes the map down, so he is so personal. But I have to admit that the pig father's talent is very high, and its sports cells and music cells are quite powerful!Pig Dad is not only the world record holder of the mud pit, but also has long-distance running, swimming, diving, and skating. His accordion is similar in appearance and the drums are equally good.
What is more worth mentioning is that the pig father also has his own unique insights in the way children are educated.
George’s dinosaurs were lost. The pig father helped to find them together, and first discovered the dinosaurs but did not say them. Instead, he guided Page to discover them himself, and then generously praised: “Good job, you are a great detective!” When parents don't have to compete with their children, let them go "win". This joy of victory is the best way to help children build confidence.When he taught Page to skate, Page fell to the first skating, and said with frustration, "I don't skate anymore." Pig Dad didn't preach at this time and told Peggy to be brave.
Instead, use his own fall to tell Page, the adults will wrestle, wrestling is not terrible, just stand up again.This episode of Piggy's learning to ride a bicycle may evoke the experience of many adults. Peggy learned to ride a two-wheeled bicycle and knew that there was a pig father behind him, so he was no longer afraid. When the pig father let him go, Peggy found himself learning to ride.Although Page finally broke the pig's beloved pumpkin, but the pig father said: "Pec, you are fine." This is very true fatherly love, ordinary with a moving force.
03 Parental love is the best education for children
The close interaction between pig father and pig mother in "Little Pig Page" allows us to fully experience the influence of parents' feelings on children's growth.On the birthday of the pig mother, the pig father gave her a holiday and let her go out to play. The pig dad himself and his child prepared a mysterious gift for the pig mother, made breakfast, made a cake... Toss a day, and finally the gift came out: a separate date between the pig father and the pig mother.Watching Mom and Dad dress up for a romantic date, the child will also plant a seed in his heart, which provides a model for imitation of their future family - parents respect each other and love each other.
For children, the love of mom and dad will give them the greatest sense of security.The gentle pig mother is not only happy for the babies, but also a little lazy, silly, and reluctant husband who never criticizes the accusation, and always treats him with a very gentle attitude.One day, the pig father wanted to do nothing, just sitting in the yard reading the newspaper, the pig mother said that the garden was "a messy thing", and my father asked with vigilance: "What do you mean by this sentence?"The pig mother smiled and told him to cut the grass, but the lazy pig father said that he liked this original feeling, did not move.
The pig mother said nothing, just waiting quietly.It wasn't until Page's ball rolled into the grass that the pig dad could really cut the grass.On the birthday of Pig Dad’s birthday, the pig mother and the child gave Dad a pair of boots and a homemade mud pit. The pig father was as happy as the child. A happy marriage has a "children's law": the child is always a child, and the husband is also a child.When your husband is causing your dissatisfaction, please read the first one. Pig father and pig mother never shun love in front of children.
Once, the pig mother was accidentally trapped in the blueberry bush, and the pig dad bravely went to save the pig mother and a sweet kiss in front of the child. Showing parents' love in front of children is precisely the best way to teach them how to love.
04 second child care pig raise! Just raise the pigs like the Peggy family!
The second child is a topic that cannot be avoided by families with children.After many mothers gave birth to two treasures, they fully experienced what it means to be a mess, and the chickens fly! Parents have so much love. How to give them to two children is fair?Pig Peggy gave us a good answer.
At Pecs' home, everyone takes care of George, including Page himself; but some "important" decisions or tasks will be borne by Page.When it comes to fun, the two children take turns to play. Generally, Page will take the first step, and Dad will say, "Pec, you have to play George after you finish playing.
"One time, Pecs and Susie played, and George was left out. The pig mother promptly called George to "help" and clean the chocolate in the bowl. With this undetectable “intervention”, the pig mother quietly balances the relationship between the two babies.Looking at the whole animation, I really admire the pigs, fathers, and pigs. They are really fair in education.
05 praise children, very important for children
Pig father and pig mother often put: "Do well, Peggy!" "Good job, George!" and other compliments are hanging on the lips. Not only for children, pig fathers and pig mothers often praise each other: "do well, pig father!" "well, pig mother!"Don't underestimate these compliments and praises. They are not only important for children, but even for every family member. They are very important emotional support.。
One time, Page was said to be a "speaker". She was very hurt and decided not to speak, but found that she could not do it.Pig Dad advised her at this time: "This is not a bad thing, Page, I think you are very good at speaking!" So, Peggy was very happy to continue to be a "speaker." .
The pig father used only one sentence to convey to Peggy the message: accept himself, like himself, and be brave. Life is like a box, and the things inside it may not be all good. The key is to open it in a different way.
If you open it with encouragement and appreciation, your child's optimism, exploration spirit and passion for life will be motivated. They will be more willing to face the world positively and will live happier in the future.
06 gives children a certain responsibility
It is a good way to cultivate children's self-confidence and responsibility and give them certain responsibilities. In "Pigpe", the pig dad’s glasses are gone, and the pig mother will let Page help the pig father to find glasses;When the Peggy family went to the beach for a holiday, the pig mother asked Peggy to help me to watch something else; in the attic of the grandparents' house, Grandpa and Grandma asked Page to decide what to throw away...
By teaching the work of these adults to children, they will feel that they are valued and trusted, even though they may not do well. Page and George helped wash the car, and the car that was originally cleaned was washed more and more dirty by the two children;Mom made the cake and the two children helped to stir, they got everywhere; the two little guys helped the grandparents to wash the dishes and got water everywhere...
But even then, pig father and pig mother will give children a lot of opportunities to let them grow in practice.One day, George kept fighting, but Page and George wanted to go to the garden to play. The pig mother said, "You can go to the garden, but take care of George."As a result, under the efforts of Page, George’s war was really cured. Giving children a certain responsibility is better than giving them a request. Sometimes they may exert potential that you can't imagine.
07 gives children the simplest material life
The Piggy family lived in a “detached villa”, and the family conditions were very abundant, but their family’s life was not extravagant.
Before going to the supermarket for shopping, they will first write a shopping list and follow the list to purchase necessities. If the pig’s shoes are lost, they will buy new shoes. The birthday gift is a doll’s skirt;
The family almost never spends money (except for a pig father who was "pit" at the school's fundraising and charity sale, and bought his old sofa at a high price), but they still live happily.
The Pecs family explained to us very well that the child's childhood does not require much material satisfaction. Rich activities, good friends, enough attention and love can meet the needs of children.
However, these contents seem simple, but we need to give more time and patience to the children, and play with them to understand their needs. How familiar is the scene, isn't it the epitome of real life?
08 Family education, parental companionship is an important part
The most touching part of "Little Pig Page" is the companionship of the parents to the children.
Pig Dad and Pig Mother spent a lot of time to accompany the growth of two children, jumping mud, blowing bubbles, flying kites, cycling trips, vacations... Page and George's rich amateur life.In fact, it is the result of Mom and Dad spending a lot of time with them.This is the most important part of family education.Education is a long process, and family education nourishes the child's heart in every day.
Every time a parent is cared for, every parent's food, every support and encouragement, these memories will remain in the child's life and affect their life.
And this nourishment is mutual, and the giving and supporting of love are also mutual. We accompany our children to grow up, and the children help us to become better ourselves, the process of accompanying our children, and the process of our parents' self-growth.This companionship is not about giving up on yourself, everything is child-centered. Just like pig father and pig mother, at home, I always do what I like to do in a state of relaxation and joy.
Maybe, we can't give a child like Peggy's childhood, at least we can do it: to accompany the child seriously and enjoy the happiness of being a parent.